Overcome My Obstacle- Learning to say no!

Do you feel hard to refuse others? Maybe you feel it is easy, but please don't tease me that it was hard for me once. Today I am going to tell you about how I overcame my obstacle: learning to say no!

Sometimes I thought I was influenced by my parents. In my mind, they almost never refuse anyone. So even if I didn't want to do something, I didn't know how to say no to others. I don't mind this behavior when I was a child, but when I grew up, my dislike for this behavior grew more and more each day.

The first time I realized this habit made troubles for me was after my first promotion. Maybe because I worked hard and did not refuse difficult work, everyone liked me, and I was promoted. After that, my work became harder than before but my work style was still like before: I never refused others' requests. This bad habit made me more and more busy. I realized I need to change, but the others were accustomed to relying on me. I didn't know how to control the work those days until I read an article: We Need to Say No Bravely. From that article I learned we need to refuse wisely to keep work in control. I did it immediately and was surprised at the result. After that I built my authority and worked efficiently. I also changed my attitude towards life: giving me more confidence and self-discipline.

Now when I recall the experience of overcoming this obstacle, I appreciate that article, and I feel lucky that I changed. With this change, I am now a more mature person. In addition, I have many friends and we communicate easily and happily. I wish my experience will inspire you: if you are unwilling, just refuse, but remember to say no wisely.